How to Find Your Purpose in Life

29 Aug
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You know that feeling when you finally “get it”? You have one of those “Aha!” moments that leaves you standing still in awe.

I had one of those moments today. I had recently listened to an episode of the Learn Out Loud podcast entitled, How to Discover Your Life Purpose in About 20 minutes.

The author suggested a very unique way on how to find your purpose in life. That was to start making a list of what you think your purpose is, even if you don’t think you have a purpose.

You then continue to write out your list, for as long as it takes, until you finally write something that makes you cry. They said that most people won’t even take the challenge. Those that do will give up before they hit pay dirt.

I thought it was a good idea, but it was about 1 am when I heard the podcast, so I decided to go to sleep and try it when I was refreshed.

I was determined to give it a try, though. I tried it at the library. Man, who would’ve thought the library could have so many distractions?!

I got through about 27 items before I got into a conversation with someone. Needless to say, I hadn’t started crying yet. If anything was about to make me cry, it was the woman who wouldn’t stop her young child from screaming…constantly.

I tried it again at a later time and got a few more items written down, but still no tears.

I was really wondering how long this was going to take. I also really had my doubts as to whether I was going to cry at all. I thought maybe I would be a little different. I thought maybe I would just have a really inspired moment and get excited – and that would be my reaction rather than crying.

I decided to continue on with my journaling journey.

Let me just say here that, one thing that was really cool about this exercise is that you begin to realize how programmed your mind is. When you first start writing down your ideas, you’ll have all the stuff that you’re supposed to say come up.

All the stuff that ministers and family members and inspirational authors have said will come to your mind. I wrote all those down, and I didn’t even flinch. They weren’t even really that inspiring to me.

When I started back again at #37 I was feeling pretty jaded. What I wrote down at #37 was “I don’t think it really matters.”

I wrote a few more, and then I realized that I was just writing very general stuff with the word “you”. For example, #43 was “To try to figure out what makes you happy.” In other words, I was writing what everyone’s purpose in life should be…not just my own.

I then took a few deep breaths and tried quieting my mind and looking a bit more inward. Some interesting things started coming to mind. And then…#52…

The first way it came into my mind was, “To see the bigness in myself.”

Let me explain. What it means is, instead of seeing all of my limitations, I see my possibilities. I see just how big I really am, not just how big I could be one day.

The tears started flowing.

I’ve been pretty hard on myself.

I started getting really inspired, really moved. I began to tweak my thought – expand on it.

What I finally came up with was…

To see the beauty and the bigness, the absolute hugeness, in myself and others, to celebrate it, to cherish it and foster it’s manifestation.

It was from this thought that I was inspired with the quote that I put in the image at the top of this post:

If the universe has taught us one thing, it’s that there’s plenty of room for everyone to be a star.

Now, it’s your turn…

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One Reply to “How to Find Your Purpose in Life”

  1. Steve,

    Congratulations on staying with the exercise until you gained the clarity you did. What you uncovered (it was there all the time) is compelling. All the inner work you have done up until now brought you to that point of clarity. Your music certainly has a strong connection to you’re doing what you have written.

    On another note, so many people are frustrated with identifying their purpose. Perfectionism is often the culprit–they are looking for the perfect answer. I tell my clients to focus on what is right in front of them, to learn to deeply love and accept themselves and to listen to whatever inspiration is at hand and to act on that.

    Doing that clears away the past programming, the “shoulds” and the “oughts” and “must do” they have been programmed with. It allows their higher self, their powerful self to emerge more and more.

    Instead of asking, “What is my purpose in life,” we can ask “What am I drawn to, what gets my positive attention, what lights me up?” Those are all clues and responding to them creates incredible positive energy to live from.

    Great post, thanks for sharing your experience.

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